7 Lessons You Learn As A First Time Mom.
I don’t think there are enough books in the world to truly prepare you for motherhood. It is one of the most magical moments from the time you find out you are expecting, feeling your baby kick for the first time and so many other special moments.
Then it is time for your baby to join the world, and hearing those first few cries will instantly change your life forever. You will look at your newborn for the first time with so much love, you won’t be able to control yourself.
When you are pregnant it seems that everyone has advice on things you should do, shouldn’t, and whether you want their advice or not they will give it. From the benefits of breastfeeding, how not to use a pacifier, what laundry soap to use, and even how to discipline your baby.
It is crazy, they see a belly bump, and the free advice flows from their mouth’s.
7 Lessons You Learn As A First Time Mom
I truly feel that no matter how much you prepare, you don’t fully know what to expect until you are holding your bundle of joy in your arms, and go through the motions of being a mom.
You always hear people saying, “Enjoy your sleep before the baby arrives!”
It gets annoying, but until you are a parent you have no idea how brutal those first few months are. The around the clock feedings, paired with trying to heal from labor and delivery, is almost more than you can imagine.
You will feel delusional tired, dozing off randomly, and not know what day it is. But remember it is a phase, and in the moment it feels like an eternity, but soon enough your baby will sleep better and you won’t have that zombie look in your eyes.
Life is full of adventure, and with any child, they will keep you on your toes.
Whether you are struggling with trying to conceive, dealing with the temper tantrums, or a pre-teen struggle. You learn patience, true patience that will help you find peace amidst the chaos.
Everyone Seems to Have an Opinion
Between your friends, doctors, family members and strangers you run into, everyone has an opinion. They all want to give out free parent advice on what you need to do, or what you are doing wrong.
Listen and pay kindness to their opinions and do what you will with it. Some advice is wonderful, while others not so much. In the end, only you know what is best for your baby and your family.
When your baby begins hitting those milestones, be prepared for the time to fly. Although, time went by slower I feel with Abby than it did with Hailee and Bella, Abby is now in high school and I feel like time has just gone by too fast!
First they roll, then crawl, next they are taking little steps, and before you know it they are in college.
Don’t blink because those moments fly by. Take pictures, create memories to last a lifetime. You will want them!
No One Is Perfect
Being a mom I think we are just naturally hard on ourselves. This is even truer for a first time mom, we are constantly doubting ourselves, and often feel like we are failing as a mom.
We want to do all the things right for our child, and help them be the best versions of themselves. But we have to remember no one is perfect, and it is okay.
Do the best you can, and if you lose it one day, it is okay. The sun will rise tomorrow and it is a new day to start over and try again. Your child will still love you, and that is what matters the most.
Give Them Love
Make sure that each day your child knows you love them. Give them an extra hug or two, spend time with them.
Those small moments of rocking your child to sleep will be forever engrained into your memory. Just show them love, encouragement, and help them to make good decisions in life.
Being a mom is challenging to say the least, and when you are a first time mom it can be even more challenging.
With each new age and milestones come new obstacles. From the terrible two stage to the pre-teen and teenage years.
Know that being a parent isn’t easy. Some days you want to curl up in bed and cry, but you’ve got this. Take a deep breath, walk away into another room to gain composure, and just know it gets easier.
Even though parenting is so challenging, you wouldn’t want it any other way at the end of the day.
What lessons did you learn as a first time mom? Let me know in the comment section below!